It is human nature that men and women are on the path of least resistance. Modern times stressed trying to make everything as simple as possible, and getting all based on this condition. We have seen people spend millions of dollars on products that are not worth what consumers pay for something they do not need, or a child more harm than good. These are just two of many examples available. The same relationship is assumed in our relationship – we want the light of marriage. We want everything to go his way. Unfortunately, for those who have such an attitude, a genuine and lasting relationships are built on much more than a nice house, good pay and satisfying sex life. There are 7 constraints Mayor: pride, greed, envy, anger, greed, gluttony and sloth. All other obstacles that can be found in our relationship went from one of those 7 or a combination thereof. Let us consider briefly each of these seven obstacles, I hope they give us into our current reality. It is important to find out who we really are. If you want to be honest with ourselves and admit our shortcomings, we are half way out of our hole. 1st Pride: Most people think that the honor does not allow others to run them. If they feel that they are now talking and looked over his shoulder, they are contemptuous behavior toward others. Modern science tells about the wide respect. The problem is that most people do not know what self-esteem. No one knows the value of dignity, if it respects the other. As one can see, to see others. Now we have the answer to the true meaning of pride. If we know that our value as human beings, others go in the sense that to the extent that they are respected. The bottom line is the true self can not be achieved without the adoption of our shortcomings. Due to misinterpretation of the word honor, we have seen, families and marriages end, for the simple reason not to accept our mistakes in the name of Pride. 2nd Greed: excessive desire for anything more. Let’s see, for example: we want to give us more and more about their love, their attention, their help, but we do not want to reciprocate in the same way. Many times we have seen that couples want their wife to swim around them like puppets. They have no consideration for others feelings, they want to feel good, and they learned how to conjugate me, and me all the time. 3rd Envy: it is the desire to be what others have, and be upset, and sometimes even the success or other property. Sometimes the wishes of spouses, so that other couples discover that they can not see good things already. In its efforts to ensure that the other, they end up so unhappy with their lives and themselves. Other couples quietly envious of each other, their talents, their salaries, their personalities and many other things. In another article I wrote that we should complement each other rather than compete with each other. Thus, envy should not take place in marriage between spouses and spouses in relation to others. 4th Anger: the pressure of everyday life for most people to wear. It is commonly seen. spouses react to things that could be processed more sensible ways, if additional pressure was not. Anger is usually a sign that points to other problems within the person, such as frustration, anxiety, insecurity, fear, etc. Sometimes we can see good reasons to react with anger at the actions, words or beliefs of others, but if we take a step back, we realize that it’s not worth it. Anger makes people say and do things you regret later, most of the time. As soon as the words leave our mouths does not belong only to us. Damage to the other, our words can be the beginning of the end of a good relationship. 5th Legal: This wild desire of another person, for the success or something. It’s wild desires can lead to either of the spouses on the road, where Nyamaa return. Our desire for money, another person, or that do not fall within reasonable parameters, it will destroy our marriage. 6th Gluttony: It is usually associated with food, but it’s not always the case. There is a spiritual gluttony, and in fact all that fattening our thoughts, our hearts, our feelings, desires, and of course our bodies. It can even be applied to sexuality, we are with our wives. We need moderation in all things and in all areas of our lives. We must be moderate in everything that inside each of us and everything that comes out of us. My mother would say everything that comes out of you about who you are as a person, so make sure you’ve always wanted to, because sometimes we are called. 7th Laziness: We can talk about it with different views, but I think we can do in terms of the following image. Very often you see teenagers today, the dream of becoming an actor, singer and model. Everything associated with glamor, fame and money. Most people think that these people have a wonderful life and that all parties, sing and dance for them. The media play an important role in the lives of these people, fine. But if you look closely, we see that their lives are almost always anything but perfect. Most people go to the same place, but as soon as hugging, kissing and sex take a back seat, and domestic issues will have to decide what they want back. It is strange to see how people are making great efforts, sometimes extraordinary efforts to meet immediate or temporary thing, but not for the most important questions about life. People like to be the easy way and not fight and you put time and effort to their working relationship. Marriage must be accepted responsibility. Someone once told me that when we got married, we must realize that our shortcomings spouses will be multiplied 10 times, and that we must learn to cope with these shortcomings. Laziness is spreading its tentacles to other areas, but I think we really do not want. Most of the time, we know that we do not do what we do. We must realize that no one will come from the street to make these changes for us. If we want change, we must begin to change yourself. Our enemies no one else but ourselves. Let us honestly look inside each of us, in order to submit claims our war against Leni make changes that would be the best spouse. Truth is an achievement not only for success in their careers, or wealth, we have accumulated over many years, but, more importantly, how much love, happiness, understanding, give and receive from our wives and families. If we decide to kill time and effort, we will be reaping the sweet fruits. There is nothing more enjoyable to come and perform in a home where love is in the middle of it all. betteryourmarriage. Blogspot. com